Birth Parent Services

Have you recently learned of your pregnancy? Do you feel overwhelmed and confused? Sometimes talking to someone who has been there, is helpful. That is what Christian Services is about: being there for you in your time of need. We provide quality, caring services to many women during their unplanned pregnancies. We will help you look at your options and carefully consider what is the best plan for both you and your unborn child.

Counseling:

Counseling is free to anyone who is pregnant, or anyone who recently had a child. Our staff will listen and will assist you in your plans for the future. We are here to support you, whether you choose to parent your child or place your child for adoption.

If you are planning to parent your child, we will help you prepare for the physical and emotional needs of your child and your future together. We can also provide referrals to community agencies that can assist you with a variety of parenting issues.

If you choose to place your child for adoption, we will help you prepare for the emotions of adoption and the grieving process, as well as complete the legal work of adoption.

Counseling is available to our pregnant clients' parents and family members, as this can be an emotional time for them too. We are available to talk with the father of the child and his parents as well.

We will travel to your home in Oklahoma, or you may come to our offices for counseling in Edmond, Oklahoma.

Adoption is a loving and honorable choice for many women. You are not alone as you face this difficult decision.

What if I don't live in Oklahoma?

If birth mothers want to work with us, and live out of state, they may stay in our maternity home.

If you choose to stay in your own home, for the duration of your pregnancy, and you live in another state, we will find a counselor near you to help you with the adoption process.


FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT ADOPTION

These questions are from the standpoint of a young woman in a crisis pregnancy, or a young man, who is the father of the child.

Q: How can adoption be a good thing when I will be losing a child?
A: If you are not ready to be a parent, placing a child for adoption is the best solution. Abortion is not giving a child a chance at life, adoption not only gives life to a child, but also allows the child to have a wonderful life with a loving family.

Q: How much will adoption cost me?
A: Adoption is free to the birth family. The adoptive family pays for the counseling you will receive and the legal aspects of the adoption.

Q: Who will be the parents of my child, if I choose adoption for him or her?
A. When birth parents work with Christian Services of Oklahoma, they may choose the adoptive parents for their child, either by looking in our book of families, or on our website, www.christian-adoption.org. All of our adoptive parents are Christians and belong to a congregation and worship faithfully.

Q: Will I ever know how my baby is doing after birth?
A: Continued contact is available, depending on the birth family's wishes. Many birth families receive pictures and letters from the adoptive families as the child grows.

Q: How much will the child know about me?
A: In Oklahoma, the adoptive parents must have a complete medical background on the child and the birth parents. The birth parents may choose what other information they would like the child to have.

Q: What rights does the birth father have?
A: Both birth parents have rights in Oklahoma. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with each other, the agency will work with the birth father to terminate his rights, or work with the courts to determine if his rights can be terminated.

Q: Where do I live while I am pregnant?
A: Christian Services of Oklahoma will be able to help you complete an adoption plan in your own home, or you may want to choose to move to our maternity home.

Q: How can I be sure my child will not be neglected or abused?
A: All adoptive families are inspected to ensure they meet the standards of the agency, the birth parents and the law, through references, criminal backgrounds and a home investigation by the agency.